Well Matthew left a couple hours ago and is now on his plane back to Vancouver. It feels so weird to not be with him again after the last two weeks and just being so in love in with him all over again. I am so glad for the last two weeks and all of the fun we have had, our wedding, our extra activities, Pride, our fun with new and old friends. It was the most amazing times and we had so much fun together.
Everyone is asking so many questions including my mom, and they are all the same questions about where we are going to live, when is Matt moving here, am I moving back to Vancouver, are we selling the house and so on and so on. Well as I say to everyone Matthew and I have a lot to discuss and we will make all of our decisions together as a married couple, and discuss it and figure out what is best for the both of us and our four kids, by kids I mean the 2 dogs and 2 cats. Those are our kids.
I even had one friend ask if it was a real marriage, why yes it is! I am truly married and we are really happy and just happy to be in love and together.
Well time to wait for his call now and check his flight status again and see where he is in the air. Where ever you are I love you and miss you and will talk to you soon.
Monday, July 11, 2011
My Big Fat Greek Employer
Holy crap, my big fat greek employer is an asshole and so is his brother. Any how here is the story and why I can say this now. I went back to work at Daybreak and was so happy for a bit, but then slowly realized I was being used in every way by Themys and his brother and not being compensated for it. They are both idiots and it is even amazing that they can run a restaurant.
Here is what happened, Pride Sunday, Matt came in and bussed tables for us for 4 hours and thanks to him for doing this, he pulled us out of the weeds. Because we were sinking and quick, especially with the shit kitchen we have there, when they learn how to cook I will let you know. Any how Matt worked his ass off for 4 hours and then left, the day just got worse from there and busier as well. Later in the day Stella fell inside the door and dropped a Corona bottle and then landed on it. Cut really bad , her and Themys had to leave. I looked after the restaurant, took over Stellas section, did my section and comforted their daughter. All of which I did not mind at the time cause I thought they were my friends.
I was so wrong. On Monday afternoon, Matt came in for lunch around 12:30, a really quiet time , Themys and Stella still at the hospital for day number 2, Themys brother George sitting in the restaurant and watching every move we made. Matt ordered Fish and Chips and a beer, I punch it all in and paid for it as I always do. This is what happened next, the kitchen not reading bills as per usual made 2 orders of fish and chips, I gave the extra piece of fish to Matt, not thinking anything of it, otherwise it would have gone in the garbage. The kitchen threw a fit, George then got involved and threw a bigger fit. Matt sat there had his lunch and George stared at him the whole damn time, how uncomfortable is that?
After Matt finished lunch we went out back for a cigarette, George followed us and stood in the doorway and stared at us the whole damn time, what I am not allowed a quick break. Matt left and I went back into the restaurant, sat down with George for a minute and all of a sudden he just went off on me, slamming the table with his fists, yelling at me about Matthew asking who the hell does he think he is and then shaking his fist in my face and calling me and every other server a nothing. Two things I will never stand for and have never are being called nothing and and having some one shake their fist in my face like you want to hit me. Wow so I left after I was told to. I am not now nor have I ever been a nothing, and no one is nothing, so get over it you fat greek pig.
This is not where the story ends as Matt still had to get his money from them for working that Sunday, crazy comes next because now they accuse me of stealing everything that Matt ate or drank, I am not a thieve and have never been and they actually tried to get out of paying for Matt working. All I said is check my ringouts and I knew he already did and was just trying to push us around cause we are gay.What an ass, just so you know. The good thing is I am here in Toronto and finding a job for me has never been a problem at all. Good bye asshole employer and your brother, also buyer beware of where you eat.
Here is what happened, Pride Sunday, Matt came in and bussed tables for us for 4 hours and thanks to him for doing this, he pulled us out of the weeds. Because we were sinking and quick, especially with the shit kitchen we have there, when they learn how to cook I will let you know. Any how Matt worked his ass off for 4 hours and then left, the day just got worse from there and busier as well. Later in the day Stella fell inside the door and dropped a Corona bottle and then landed on it. Cut really bad , her and Themys had to leave. I looked after the restaurant, took over Stellas section, did my section and comforted their daughter. All of which I did not mind at the time cause I thought they were my friends.
I was so wrong. On Monday afternoon, Matt came in for lunch around 12:30, a really quiet time , Themys and Stella still at the hospital for day number 2, Themys brother George sitting in the restaurant and watching every move we made. Matt ordered Fish and Chips and a beer, I punch it all in and paid for it as I always do. This is what happened next, the kitchen not reading bills as per usual made 2 orders of fish and chips, I gave the extra piece of fish to Matt, not thinking anything of it, otherwise it would have gone in the garbage. The kitchen threw a fit, George then got involved and threw a bigger fit. Matt sat there had his lunch and George stared at him the whole damn time, how uncomfortable is that?
After Matt finished lunch we went out back for a cigarette, George followed us and stood in the doorway and stared at us the whole damn time, what I am not allowed a quick break. Matt left and I went back into the restaurant, sat down with George for a minute and all of a sudden he just went off on me, slamming the table with his fists, yelling at me about Matthew asking who the hell does he think he is and then shaking his fist in my face and calling me and every other server a nothing. Two things I will never stand for and have never are being called nothing and and having some one shake their fist in my face like you want to hit me. Wow so I left after I was told to. I am not now nor have I ever been a nothing, and no one is nothing, so get over it you fat greek pig.
This is not where the story ends as Matt still had to get his money from them for working that Sunday, crazy comes next because now they accuse me of stealing everything that Matt ate or drank, I am not a thieve and have never been and they actually tried to get out of paying for Matt working. All I said is check my ringouts and I knew he already did and was just trying to push us around cause we are gay.What an ass, just so you know. The good thing is I am here in Toronto and finding a job for me has never been a problem at all. Good bye asshole employer and your brother, also buyer beware of where you eat.
His last day here with me for now!
Well we crammed a lifetime in the last 10 days, I worked, we did PRIDE, Matt came and helped us at work, we got engaged, we got married. I couldn't be happier and we had a great time doing everything we did, and I truly love Matthew and know that we have done everything right.
Matthew flies out tonight and I have to admit I will be terribly sad and can't believe he is leaving and having to go back to Vancouver. I know it has to be done, he has the house in Vancouver, the tenants and also his parents who need him.
So over the next few months we will travel back and forth from Toronto to Vancouver to be with each other and together. We have a few things to plan and a lot to do over the next year and believe me when I say it, I am so excited about all that we are doing because we are doing it together and as a married couple, which is just amazing.
I have lots to do today and I am going to make my day all about Matt and spending every minute with him in every way possible. I hate the fact that he is leaving and has to go home , but I love the fact that I know he will be back as soon as he can make it out again. Or I will fly out there to see him and spend some time with him and his folks. Maybe help to get things settled for him us both in Vancouver and make some decisions on the house and everything else that needs to be discussed. Yes we discuss things now which is refreshing for both of us.
Well time to get on with the day and get my shit done and spend time with my husband. Talk to you all soon. Have a great day from your gay neighbor.
Matthew flies out tonight and I have to admit I will be terribly sad and can't believe he is leaving and having to go back to Vancouver. I know it has to be done, he has the house in Vancouver, the tenants and also his parents who need him.
So over the next few months we will travel back and forth from Toronto to Vancouver to be with each other and together. We have a few things to plan and a lot to do over the next year and believe me when I say it, I am so excited about all that we are doing because we are doing it together and as a married couple, which is just amazing.
I have lots to do today and I am going to make my day all about Matt and spending every minute with him in every way possible. I hate the fact that he is leaving and has to go home , but I love the fact that I know he will be back as soon as he can make it out again. Or I will fly out there to see him and spend some time with him and his folks. Maybe help to get things settled for him us both in Vancouver and make some decisions on the house and everything else that needs to be discussed. Yes we discuss things now which is refreshing for both of us.
Well time to get on with the day and get my shit done and spend time with my husband. Talk to you all soon. Have a great day from your gay neighbor.
Sunday, July 10, 2011
One More Day
Matthew is leaving tomorrow night and all I can think is how much I am going to miss him again. The first 6 weeks out here were incredibly hard with us apart and separated, now that we are married and he is going back to Vancouver, it will be incredibly hard. I already miss him and he is here next to me on the couch. The girls are going to miss him again as well and Rogue especially, she just loves him to death. On the bright side when we see him again and it will be sooner than later, my god is it great and I don't just mean seeing him, but being together and looking in his eyes and just sitting and lying next to him. I know that we are both strong enough people to do a long distance relationship and I have had other friends who have done this and done well at it. I also know that I love him more than enough to do this and that he loves me. The changes I see in both of us are beyond what I ever thought possible, but I know they are there and that we have both seen them and are both now reaping the benefits of them and us and the path that life is put forward for us.
Things have been amazing for both of us in Toronto and Matt is now seeing why I love the city and why I need and want to be here so badly. I find Toronto so much friendlier and outgoing than Vancouver and also so much more outgoing here and also find myself so much more outgoing here as well, as I am sure Matthew has noticed.
I do have to close with one thing though, with all the congratulations and good for you guys that we received from a lot of our friends, there were a few that were just idiots and could not even muster a congrats or glad for you. To those people well, at least we are in a relationship and are figuring out how to make it work, as far as I know the three of you I know about are all single and just to say none of you have had or are in a relationship and have been single for as long as I can remember. Tim you were just an ass, Jurgen well your response was just rude and stupid at best and to Nicola, well let me say, just a huge disapointment in every way.We are happy and that is all that matters and to all you that can not be for us, it really does not matter to me what the hell you think.
Things have been amazing for both of us in Toronto and Matt is now seeing why I love the city and why I need and want to be here so badly. I find Toronto so much friendlier and outgoing than Vancouver and also so much more outgoing here and also find myself so much more outgoing here as well, as I am sure Matthew has noticed.
I do have to close with one thing though, with all the congratulations and good for you guys that we received from a lot of our friends, there were a few that were just idiots and could not even muster a congrats or glad for you. To those people well, at least we are in a relationship and are figuring out how to make it work, as far as I know the three of you I know about are all single and just to say none of you have had or are in a relationship and have been single for as long as I can remember. Tim you were just an ass, Jurgen well your response was just rude and stupid at best and to Nicola, well let me say, just a huge disapointment in every way.We are happy and that is all that matters and to all you that can not be for us, it really does not matter to me what the hell you think.
Saturday, July 9, 2011
Full Circle
It amazes me how everything seems to come a complete 360 if you just wait for it to happen. Matthew arrived here 10 days ago and it has been a complete whirlwind of fun, love and romance, much like the first week we dated way back when. Matt and I started dating on March 17th of 2009 and we just fell in love, it was a whirlwind romance and I knew from the date I met him that I loved him and called him my lobster from the day we met. We moved in together on May 7th of that same year and yes we had our little problems, but we seemed to always make it through them no matter what. On April 30th of this year, we decided to separate because I just could not live in Vancouver anymore and be unemployed and Matthew could not move here because of his folks back in Vancouver, so the dogs and I came here, I started back to work and got a little apartment in a cute community, hooked up with some old friends and eventually became myself again. While in Vancouver, I just started to loose myself and who I was with all the challenges I faced there. The unemployment and the struggles of the phony people that became a thorn in my side. I just lost me and became a really different man than I ever had been before.
Anyhow Matthew and I have been on the phone and msn constantly since the day I left and he arrived a week ago wedenesday and came out to visit for PRIDE and stay for a while. Anyhow here is where the story unfolds, last Thursday a day after he arrived we were sitting at the Firken having a drink and I just looked at him and asked him to marry me on Tuesday, he said yes. So on Tuesday we headed down to city hall and applied for our marriage licence, After obtaining our licence we went up stairs and booked our wedding for the next afternoon at 1pm. So Wednesday July 6th at 1pm Matt and I got married, a week after his arrival here in Toronto. We had a great and intimate ceremony with a few friends, actually just 4 friends, Wayne, Martin, Angela and Nancy. It was perfect. I am so happy and now married. I truly love Matt now and always have since the day I met him. Thank you for a being in my life and with me dear. Anyhow now we will live apart and share our marriage in 2 different cites for now, until it is right for him to move. We both understand where we are and for the first time in years, I believe we are both at peace in our lives and being married is so right, and for me marriage is once and I am so glad it is Matt that I am married to. I am truly in love and we are so great together , he is my lobster! I will tell you all more about our wedding soon and Matthew's trip out here to Toronto and Pride here. You all have a great day and thank you for reading.
Anyhow Matthew and I have been on the phone and msn constantly since the day I left and he arrived a week ago wedenesday and came out to visit for PRIDE and stay for a while. Anyhow here is where the story unfolds, last Thursday a day after he arrived we were sitting at the Firken having a drink and I just looked at him and asked him to marry me on Tuesday, he said yes. So on Tuesday we headed down to city hall and applied for our marriage licence, After obtaining our licence we went up stairs and booked our wedding for the next afternoon at 1pm. So Wednesday July 6th at 1pm Matt and I got married, a week after his arrival here in Toronto. We had a great and intimate ceremony with a few friends, actually just 4 friends, Wayne, Martin, Angela and Nancy. It was perfect. I am so happy and now married. I truly love Matt now and always have since the day I met him. Thank you for a being in my life and with me dear. Anyhow now we will live apart and share our marriage in 2 different cites for now, until it is right for him to move. We both understand where we are and for the first time in years, I believe we are both at peace in our lives and being married is so right, and for me marriage is once and I am so glad it is Matt that I am married to. I am truly in love and we are so great together , he is my lobster! I will tell you all more about our wedding soon and Matthew's trip out here to Toronto and Pride here. You all have a great day and thank you for reading.
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Pride is finally over
It was a great Pride and a wonderful time the last week, although extremely busy and not without the exceptions of a few bad moments which were overcome after a couple of stiff drinks. Any how to catch you all up, Matthew arrived last Wednesday morning, his flight was late but non the same he got here and I am so happy he was here and with me and got to meet my friends and celebrate Pride with me. I worked everyday unfortunately from the date of his arrival and was there most days up to 10 hours so it was a crazy week for me and for us and then we would go out and explore the village and the hundreds of thousands of people who were here.
So here are some of the mishaps this Pride, Mayor Rob Ford, just an idiot to say the least, first mayor of Toronto in years, not to represent the city by marching in the parade or opening the gay pride celebration. I think he has totally screwed himself for re election in 4 years time. Second, oh my god it was busy and the kitchen where I work , what a fucking disaster is all I can really say about that. Only one of the three cooks in there can read english and gives a shit what they are sending out. The other 2 not so great, especially Fusili, a stupid and belligerent ass, he is from Greece and therefor protected by the owners and is just a total fuck up. The man throws plates in the window, literally the one day from standing there and waiting for my food to come up, the front of my shirt was covered in Hollandaise sauce. Then on Pride Sunday Stella, my boss was there waiting tables and fell onto a piece of glass and cut her hand wide open, after taking over her section, still doing mine and consoling her daughter I was just plain exhausted that day, nut I went out with my girls and Matthew and we went to the Firken and had a few drinks. A good time was had by all eventually! After leaving the Firken and the girls on Sunday, Matt and I went to see my friend the other Wayne and his partner, yes I know that may confuse you. Got there and had a couple drinks with them and then walked them to Zippers, as they were going out, not me, had to work in the morning again. Saturday night we went out for Waynes birthday dinner with him and his friend David. So happy to be there for his birthday, which was actually on Sunday. All weekend long Matt and I were out doing something at night and we had an amazing time together, busy and just wonderful, god I love him so much, he is in Vancouver, because honestly that is where he belongs at the moment and in time we will be together in the same home again, but for now we are always together in our hearts and with each other in our thoughts constantly.
Anyhow yesterday was starting out to be great, but unfortunately did not work out to be that way for a while, with Stella still in the hospital and Themis there with her all day, that left brother George in charge of the restaurant which just turned out to be a disaster, now let me tell you why. Before this Fusili was being his usual ass self and not doing his job and just in panic mode as he always is, so I told George to go in and straighten the ass hole out, because he was just starting to stress everyone. It started with Matt coming in for lunch and having food and paying for it of course as we always do, George sat there the whole time glaring at Matthew while he ate his lunch and had a beer. Making Matt very uncomfortable and making me very angry. No body wants to go to a restaurant and eat lunch and be made to feel that they are unwelcome and stared at like they don't belong there! So Matt got up after his lunch and cleared his own plate and beer bottle and whatever is what I say about that, after all he did come in and help us for 4 hours the day before and bus tables and keep us out of the weeds, so what the hell he cleared his plate after lunch and we went out back for a ciggy break. George followed us and stood in the back door and stared as we smoked and I gave Matt a kiss, come on really he is my partner. Anyways Matt left and I went back inside to work st down for a minute and all of a sudden George went off on me. George was slamming his fist on the table and then put his fucken fist right in my face and telling me how angry he was with me and how he didn't like my friend clearing his plate and started to yell at me, telling me I was a nobody and who do I think I am to tell him about the cook and have my "friend" clear his own plate. He kept on and eventually told me he did not want me there, so I finished my tables and left. Oh well, I will get another job and it will be great and no more Greek owners for me. I am done with them.
Before leaving I told George that I am not a nobody and I worked my ass off for his brother and did my job and went above and beyond my duties which I always have and always will.I also said that no one raises their hand to me ever and he just kept yelling at me in front of my tables and customers and everything else and going on about how I am a nobody we just work for them and that is it, Well mister I am not sure who the hell you think you are but get over it and quickly please. You are just an idiot and I think you may be suffering from demensia or something of that nature, to say the least you have a split personality. So I left and met up with Matt and we then met up with Alisa and Brian and went and had a couple drinks at the Firken again and then off to Alisa place to check out the view there. The day got better and I vow not to let George and his power trip ruin my day and I did just that, I forgot my troubles and got happy! So that was our Pride, all and all pretty great, with a few mishaps here and there.
So here are some of the mishaps this Pride, Mayor Rob Ford, just an idiot to say the least, first mayor of Toronto in years, not to represent the city by marching in the parade or opening the gay pride celebration. I think he has totally screwed himself for re election in 4 years time. Second, oh my god it was busy and the kitchen where I work , what a fucking disaster is all I can really say about that. Only one of the three cooks in there can read english and gives a shit what they are sending out. The other 2 not so great, especially Fusili, a stupid and belligerent ass, he is from Greece and therefor protected by the owners and is just a total fuck up. The man throws plates in the window, literally the one day from standing there and waiting for my food to come up, the front of my shirt was covered in Hollandaise sauce. Then on Pride Sunday Stella, my boss was there waiting tables and fell onto a piece of glass and cut her hand wide open, after taking over her section, still doing mine and consoling her daughter I was just plain exhausted that day, nut I went out with my girls and Matthew and we went to the Firken and had a few drinks. A good time was had by all eventually! After leaving the Firken and the girls on Sunday, Matt and I went to see my friend the other Wayne and his partner, yes I know that may confuse you. Got there and had a couple drinks with them and then walked them to Zippers, as they were going out, not me, had to work in the morning again. Saturday night we went out for Waynes birthday dinner with him and his friend David. So happy to be there for his birthday, which was actually on Sunday. All weekend long Matt and I were out doing something at night and we had an amazing time together, busy and just wonderful, god I love him so much, he is in Vancouver, because honestly that is where he belongs at the moment and in time we will be together in the same home again, but for now we are always together in our hearts and with each other in our thoughts constantly.
Anyhow yesterday was starting out to be great, but unfortunately did not work out to be that way for a while, with Stella still in the hospital and Themis there with her all day, that left brother George in charge of the restaurant which just turned out to be a disaster, now let me tell you why. Before this Fusili was being his usual ass self and not doing his job and just in panic mode as he always is, so I told George to go in and straighten the ass hole out, because he was just starting to stress everyone. It started with Matt coming in for lunch and having food and paying for it of course as we always do, George sat there the whole time glaring at Matthew while he ate his lunch and had a beer. Making Matt very uncomfortable and making me very angry. No body wants to go to a restaurant and eat lunch and be made to feel that they are unwelcome and stared at like they don't belong there! So Matt got up after his lunch and cleared his own plate and beer bottle and whatever is what I say about that, after all he did come in and help us for 4 hours the day before and bus tables and keep us out of the weeds, so what the hell he cleared his plate after lunch and we went out back for a ciggy break. George followed us and stood in the back door and stared as we smoked and I gave Matt a kiss, come on really he is my partner. Anyways Matt left and I went back inside to work st down for a minute and all of a sudden George went off on me. George was slamming his fist on the table and then put his fucken fist right in my face and telling me how angry he was with me and how he didn't like my friend clearing his plate and started to yell at me, telling me I was a nobody and who do I think I am to tell him about the cook and have my "friend" clear his own plate. He kept on and eventually told me he did not want me there, so I finished my tables and left. Oh well, I will get another job and it will be great and no more Greek owners for me. I am done with them.
Before leaving I told George that I am not a nobody and I worked my ass off for his brother and did my job and went above and beyond my duties which I always have and always will.I also said that no one raises their hand to me ever and he just kept yelling at me in front of my tables and customers and everything else and going on about how I am a nobody we just work for them and that is it, Well mister I am not sure who the hell you think you are but get over it and quickly please. You are just an idiot and I think you may be suffering from demensia or something of that nature, to say the least you have a split personality. So I left and met up with Matt and we then met up with Alisa and Brian and went and had a couple drinks at the Firken again and then off to Alisa place to check out the view there. The day got better and I vow not to let George and his power trip ruin my day and I did just that, I forgot my troubles and got happy! So that was our Pride, all and all pretty great, with a few mishaps here and there.
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