Well I guess I am in May now and home from Alberta to troubling times in our relationship and stress from my being gone and worrying about mom and 3 people who came into our lives while I was away. I won't get into how as of yet, but I will say the one I dislike the most is a man named Michel. I am sure I am not the only person on earth who has a strong dislike for this person and who I see him as. To me he is a self centered nothing of a man who I prefer to call a home wrecker. May came and went and we started again to rebuild our relationship. I love Matthew dearly and I know that he loves me as well and that love we have has grown stronger every day and through every test thrown at us.May was also the end of a 15 year friendship with a man and his partner who I thought would always be in my life and I use to think I could trust. Things were said on both sides that we both would later regret and rekindle a friendship although not the same in September. The biggest reason for our falling out was that he was trying to sleep with my partner, I know hard to believe. The gay lifestyle is very different and as I have figured out over the years monogamy is a hard task by men in general, gay, straight or otherwise. I am a unique gay man and know of a few others who believe in monogamy in a relationship. I have found out over the years that unfortunately there is not a large percentage like me.
In June I turned 40 years old and had a great birthday party, not a big one, but those who I wanted there and those who are my now true friends attended, and a couple of people who are no longer in my life at all except when we accidentally run into each other while out.
Bo and Hope showed up and Bo wore the most amazing outfit, probably the best gift ever, he had on Daisy Duke Shorts , a great cowboy shirt and a pair of Cowboy boots. This brought smiles to everyones faces and was a conversation piece that lasted for months. Others who were there were My Best friend Tom and his now ex Boris, Our other neighbors Isabella and John, My now ex other best friend Jurgen and his roommate at the time Jeff and Matthew's friends Gabe and Julian.
This is also the night Isabella came out with the statement My gay neighbor and it has just kind of stuck since then. So now this is what we are known as to them and to Bo and Hope.
At the end of June I flew to Toronto for 10 days and helped out a friend at their restaurant over PRIDE. Had a great time and was gone again from Matt, my girls and the cats. I got to reunite with friends and also see my ex Wayne which is always a pleasure. Although we never made it as a couple we have remained in touch and become very good friends.
Coming home in July I was not sure after several phone conversations with Matthew what I was coming home to and if I would still have a relationship. Believe you me over the last 1 and 1/2 years we have had our ups and downs and our fair share of compromises in our relationship. Matthew and I have different views on many things but some how always seem to meet in the middle. Understanding both of us and our upbringings and the way we have lived our past relationships has helped a great deal for us to move forward. I have told Matt from day 1 that he is my lobster, for all of you who don't know a lobster mates for life and has only that one partner. Matthew is mine.
June and July were filled with drinks in our yard and sitting out front in or bathing suits and in our Kiddie Pool which we set up every year and beat the heat in. Bo and Hope were over lots in the summer and Hope always showed up in her bikini. We were back and forth between each others yards all summer long. Always good times and wow did I ever have a great tan.
John looked over the fence one day and made a comment asking me if the 3 of us wore anything else, the answer was basically no. This is our summer attire when home and warm enough. John did eventually come over one day and actually sit in our kiddie pool and joined us for a drink as well. We also went to their 10th anniversary in July, I dressed in drag and Matt wore a lovely Blue Leisure Suit as the theme was tacky wedding.
Well time to bring Bo and Hopes tenant into my year in Review. We met Froy in May I guess, and developed an immediate friendship with him, He is a great young man and we are thankful to have him in our lives. Will explain more about him soon.
August brought Matt and I closer together and also brought much sadness into my life with friends and best friends parents passing away, was the start to a horrible time for death was upon us. Mom still going through Chemo and now having lost all of her hair was strong and went to say goodbye to many of her friends that I grew up knowing. This string of deaths was to last through to November.
August brought me a new job and what I thought at the time to be a fabulous employer, BOY was I wrong about that. Turns out he was another asshole who just ended up using me to turn around his business and use my knowledge and then discard me like yesterdays news. I ended up being let go in September after 6 short weeks of work and what I thought was my dream job. We also celebrated PRIDE in Vancouver, was a great time. had a small gathering and Bar B Q at the house.
We ended August celebrating Matthew's 44th birthday. It was nice and quiet and the 2 of us had a great time. I bought him a Food processor(something he really wanted and uses frequently). He loves his kitchen toys and also any power tools he can get his hands on. He is easily distracted by shiny objects. I often bug him and say he suffers from ADOS, attention defisite ooh Shiny.
Poor Bo had to miss it all as he was out of the province most of the summer working.
Friday, December 31, 2010
Last Night
Last Night was a great night, Matthew and I watched Boys On the Side, one of my all time favorite movies, if you haven't seen it, Please watch it, It will make you laugh, cry and feel every other emotion that you can possibly feel during a movie. Then we went over to our neighbors who are 3 doors down, we sat and had a few drinks with them and visited for a bit and and talked about New Years Eve which is tonight and how we are going over there for a bit after 9pm.
Bo and Hope are a great couple and we have gotten quite close to them and see them almost daily and get together either at our house or theirs 1 or 2 times a week. Matt and Bo usually end up talking and Hope and I are often seen on the balcony having a cigarette and a drink and visiting and sharing decorating tips and different painting ideas.
Matthew is still sick with a cold and now I have gotten it as well, my head is so sore and all I do at the moment is sneeze and cough and am taking Buckleys liquid caps during the day and tylenol for my headache and then Benelyn DM at night so I can sleep. Just sitting around in my robe right at the moment, wow what a New Years.
Also yesterday our other neighbor Isabella dropped by with some lovely baked goods for us and asked me to send her the link to my blog. Isabella is the one who first called us her gay neighbor, it was at my 40th birthday last year. I will get in deeper about our neighbors Isabella and John and Bo and Hope in my next few blogs.
Have a great day, going to lie down now and try to clear my head. I will be back in a bit to finish my year in review.
Bo and Hope are a great couple and we have gotten quite close to them and see them almost daily and get together either at our house or theirs 1 or 2 times a week. Matt and Bo usually end up talking and Hope and I are often seen on the balcony having a cigarette and a drink and visiting and sharing decorating tips and different painting ideas.
Matthew is still sick with a cold and now I have gotten it as well, my head is so sore and all I do at the moment is sneeze and cough and am taking Buckleys liquid caps during the day and tylenol for my headache and then Benelyn DM at night so I can sleep. Just sitting around in my robe right at the moment, wow what a New Years.
Also yesterday our other neighbor Isabella dropped by with some lovely baked goods for us and asked me to send her the link to my blog. Isabella is the one who first called us her gay neighbor, it was at my 40th birthday last year. I will get in deeper about our neighbors Isabella and John and Bo and Hope in my next few blogs.
Have a great day, going to lie down now and try to clear my head. I will be back in a bit to finish my year in review.
A year in Review Part 2
Well I guess I should finish off March by saying it ended well and Matt and I did some more renovations, this time over at his parents house and started to redo his parents basement washroom, which meant gutting the whole thing and putting in new floors and fixtures and painting the small room. This was actually a lot of work and took longer than we thought it would. Matt worked on this throughout April and I helped until around the 14th.
April started off really well and then went to hell in a hand basket. This is hard for me to talk about but here I go.
On April 15th at approximately 9am the phone rang and for a change it was my father and he asked me in his scared voice which I rarely hear when I could be to Alberta. The reason was he had just told me Mom had been diagnosed that morning with cancer. Matt and I got on the computer and booked a flight as soon as we could to get me to Calgary, I left that day at 2pm and arrived in Calgary at 7pm their time and was met at the airport by my older brothers' wife whom I hadn't seen in years or even talked to in years. Adrienne gave me a ride to Mom and Dads farm. When I saw mom , you could actually see the tumor on the side of her face and it was pushing her eye out. I have actually never been so scared in my life and all I could do was be there for her. The next morning Mom and I had to take the 3 hour drive from the farm to Edmonton to see the Oncologist, sitting in the office and getting the final diagnosis with Mom and hearing the doctor explain things and seeing the actual picture and size of the tumor, he decided to have mom admitted to the University Hospital in Edmonton on the Monday following. Mom and I both in total shock drove back to the farm and just waited the weekend until Monday morning to make the trip back to Edmonton.
My next 3 weeks were spent in Edmonton with my days from 8am to 8pm beside Mom in the hospital and talking to doctors and nurses and phoning family and Matt with updates everyday. I spent my nights a my friends place in Edmonton. Mom went in for a biopsy on the following Wednesday and then on the Friday Dr. Seiklay came in and told us the type of Cancer and Moms' options.
The next steps for mom were to decide if she wanted to pursue treatments and which ones. All I could do is be there for her. I came back home to Vancouver on May 4th.
The next few months were filled with worry , a lot of phone calls back and forth and Mom going through an extensive Chemo treatment for 4 months, followed by a radiation treatment for 4 weeks.
During this time the strain on Matt and my relationship was extremely tense and hard for both of us, after I arrived home there were many arguments and again our relationship was very close to ending.
April started off really well and then went to hell in a hand basket. This is hard for me to talk about but here I go.
On April 15th at approximately 9am the phone rang and for a change it was my father and he asked me in his scared voice which I rarely hear when I could be to Alberta. The reason was he had just told me Mom had been diagnosed that morning with cancer. Matt and I got on the computer and booked a flight as soon as we could to get me to Calgary, I left that day at 2pm and arrived in Calgary at 7pm their time and was met at the airport by my older brothers' wife whom I hadn't seen in years or even talked to in years. Adrienne gave me a ride to Mom and Dads farm. When I saw mom , you could actually see the tumor on the side of her face and it was pushing her eye out. I have actually never been so scared in my life and all I could do was be there for her. The next morning Mom and I had to take the 3 hour drive from the farm to Edmonton to see the Oncologist, sitting in the office and getting the final diagnosis with Mom and hearing the doctor explain things and seeing the actual picture and size of the tumor, he decided to have mom admitted to the University Hospital in Edmonton on the Monday following. Mom and I both in total shock drove back to the farm and just waited the weekend until Monday morning to make the trip back to Edmonton.
My next 3 weeks were spent in Edmonton with my days from 8am to 8pm beside Mom in the hospital and talking to doctors and nurses and phoning family and Matt with updates everyday. I spent my nights a my friends place in Edmonton. Mom went in for a biopsy on the following Wednesday and then on the Friday Dr. Seiklay came in and told us the type of Cancer and Moms' options.
The next steps for mom were to decide if she wanted to pursue treatments and which ones. All I could do is be there for her. I came back home to Vancouver on May 4th.
The next few months were filled with worry , a lot of phone calls back and forth and Mom going through an extensive Chemo treatment for 4 months, followed by a radiation treatment for 4 weeks.
During this time the strain on Matt and my relationship was extremely tense and hard for both of us, after I arrived home there were many arguments and again our relationship was very close to ending.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
A Year in Review
It is now the second last day of the year and I suppose I should start to recap a bit of our 2010 and maybe this will help you to get to know Matt and I better. I will start with last January and go from there, so here with go a year in review with your gay neighbor.
January I was working for a restaurant and was spending more than 90 hours a week a the restaurant and put a lot of stress on our relationship, mostly because I was more dedicated to a job that I thought was worth it but really wasn't. Lesson to everyone including myself, love and family are far more important than some job and a little money.
February, Matt and I almost broke up, so not even a year into our relationship and we are almost done due to my job and lack of attention to him and a few other reasons. January made February a really rough start and therefor we almost didn't make it a year. Oh and I left that job after all, they basically just used me to get the liquor licence and hire and set up the staff for them. Bullshit is what that place was. My jobs since I moved back to Vancouver from Toronto in October of 2008, have been very thankless and horrible. I am a trained Restaurant Hotel Manager and now find myself unable to get a job because I am competing with people who are 20 something and will work for basically nothing.
Any how back to February, after i left my job, due to a lack of respect from my employer and their refusal to renew my contract and give me a bit more money and have me work a few less hours. February eventually got better for Matt and I and we started to work more on our relationship and make it stronger. Also in February my sister Cheryl was here for 16 days to volunteer for the 2010 Winter Olympics and stayed with us off and on during that time, we had a lot of fun with her and seeing all the sights in our own city. We( Matt and I) also finished our extensive house renovations, moving the kitchen , tearing down walls, removing carpet and then laying laminate and new ceramic tiles and installing a totally newly positioned kitchen at the back of the house which is lovely I might add. Matthew did all the plumbing by himself, so proud of him for that. We also painted and put in new cabinets and a fireplace and new mantle after exposing old brick and stuff in our 1930's home.
March was a good month and we had our 1 year anniversary and I continued to look for work, with no luck which I guess was meant to be when I look at the rest of the year and what happened. I grew use to sitting at home and doing nothing.
I will publish more in a bit, I am going to take a cigarette break and get more coffee. Thanks for reading.
January I was working for a restaurant and was spending more than 90 hours a week a the restaurant and put a lot of stress on our relationship, mostly because I was more dedicated to a job that I thought was worth it but really wasn't. Lesson to everyone including myself, love and family are far more important than some job and a little money.
February, Matt and I almost broke up, so not even a year into our relationship and we are almost done due to my job and lack of attention to him and a few other reasons. January made February a really rough start and therefor we almost didn't make it a year. Oh and I left that job after all, they basically just used me to get the liquor licence and hire and set up the staff for them. Bullshit is what that place was. My jobs since I moved back to Vancouver from Toronto in October of 2008, have been very thankless and horrible. I am a trained Restaurant Hotel Manager and now find myself unable to get a job because I am competing with people who are 20 something and will work for basically nothing.
Any how back to February, after i left my job, due to a lack of respect from my employer and their refusal to renew my contract and give me a bit more money and have me work a few less hours. February eventually got better for Matt and I and we started to work more on our relationship and make it stronger. Also in February my sister Cheryl was here for 16 days to volunteer for the 2010 Winter Olympics and stayed with us off and on during that time, we had a lot of fun with her and seeing all the sights in our own city. We( Matt and I) also finished our extensive house renovations, moving the kitchen , tearing down walls, removing carpet and then laying laminate and new ceramic tiles and installing a totally newly positioned kitchen at the back of the house which is lovely I might add. Matthew did all the plumbing by himself, so proud of him for that. We also painted and put in new cabinets and a fireplace and new mantle after exposing old brick and stuff in our 1930's home.
March was a good month and we had our 1 year anniversary and I continued to look for work, with no luck which I guess was meant to be when I look at the rest of the year and what happened. I grew use to sitting at home and doing nothing.
I will publish more in a bit, I am going to take a cigarette break and get more coffee. Thanks for reading.
December 30th, Why I write this Blog
Hello and good morning all
I guess i should tell you all why I am writing this blog and also how I came up with the name. So here goes I am writing this because of all the suicides by those who in the last few years who were ridiculed because they are gay and also because of all the gay bashings in the last few years and to let people know we are just the same as a straight couple and it is alright too be gay or whatever you want to be in life as long as you are yourself.
When I was growing up, it was very hard to be gay and I knew when I was 14 years old I guess and was picked on alot in school even though I never did come out until my late 20's. I often thought of suicide and eventually just left school and the little town I grew up in and went on to live my life. I have to thank a lot of the girls I went to school with which I now realize were life savers and I am still in touch with. I lived my life as a lie for many years dating girls and trying to fit in which made me very miserable for quite some time.
As for gay bashings I will get into that another time and explain my opinions on that and why we as a world need to be more understanding. In the end I took my high school by correspondence and also my college at home so I wouldn't be so picked on. I went to work and dealt with it there instead.
In the end just a note for all to remember we do not chose to be gay, we are born gay just as you are born straight and certain race. No one would choose a life as a minority and being ridiculed and picked on.
Also the last reason why I write this is to let you into our lives and to get to know and love us as a gay couple and understand that our lives are no different than yours or anyone elses. Also how I got the name My Gay Neighbor, we got that this last summer by one of our neighbors and I am not sure why they called us that but I am glad they did because it made them more understanding of us and that we really are no different as you will soon see.
Will give you more info on this as I blog. Any how have a great day and I will see you later.
I guess i should tell you all why I am writing this blog and also how I came up with the name. So here goes I am writing this because of all the suicides by those who in the last few years who were ridiculed because they are gay and also because of all the gay bashings in the last few years and to let people know we are just the same as a straight couple and it is alright too be gay or whatever you want to be in life as long as you are yourself.
When I was growing up, it was very hard to be gay and I knew when I was 14 years old I guess and was picked on alot in school even though I never did come out until my late 20's. I often thought of suicide and eventually just left school and the little town I grew up in and went on to live my life. I have to thank a lot of the girls I went to school with which I now realize were life savers and I am still in touch with. I lived my life as a lie for many years dating girls and trying to fit in which made me very miserable for quite some time.
As for gay bashings I will get into that another time and explain my opinions on that and why we as a world need to be more understanding. In the end I took my high school by correspondence and also my college at home so I wouldn't be so picked on. I went to work and dealt with it there instead.
In the end just a note for all to remember we do not chose to be gay, we are born gay just as you are born straight and certain race. No one would choose a life as a minority and being ridiculed and picked on.
Also the last reason why I write this is to let you into our lives and to get to know and love us as a gay couple and understand that our lives are no different than yours or anyone elses. Also how I got the name My Gay Neighbor, we got that this last summer by one of our neighbors and I am not sure why they called us that but I am glad they did because it made them more understanding of us and that we really are no different as you will soon see.
Will give you more info on this as I blog. Any how have a great day and I will see you later.
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
December 29th 2010
Well the day so far has not been too exciting, though we have had a few adventures already and it is only 1pm here. Our new hutch was delivered around 10:30am and then I had the lovely task of putting away all my cranberry glassware and god as I always hear, I have a lot of it.
The delivery guys were very nice and I tipped them appropriately and they were very attentive and showed me everything and how to put the legs and that on and checked everything for me. Great Service, thank you United Furniture.
Our new Bar is now set up on top of the hutch. Come on over for a drink and say hi to your gay neighbor.
Matt is extremely sick today and has spent most of the day thus far in bed with a cold, though he gets up every once in a while to bug me for sex, yes he does that a lot!
The delivery guys were very nice and I tipped them appropriately and they were very attentive and showed me everything and how to put the legs and that on and checked everything for me. Great Service, thank you United Furniture.
Our new Bar is now set up on top of the hutch. Come on over for a drink and say hi to your gay neighbor.
Matt is extremely sick today and has spent most of the day thus far in bed with a cold, though he gets up every once in a while to bug me for sex, yes he does that a lot!
December 29th 2010
Okay so here I am at day number 2 and woken up at 7:15 by the delivery notice of our new piece of furniture which is coming today. Also it is now snowing outside here in our lovely city of Vancouver, 2nd snow of the year here.
Matt got up and is very sick today with a cold and therefor a little out of it. I got up and took the dogs and cats for their morning walk to the park as I do every morning once I am awake.
I guess I should tell you about our little family, we have 2 dogs both female and they are Rogue(6 years) and Storm (5 Years) and they are mother and daughter. We also have 2 cats Sparky and Nadia who are brother and sister and both a year and a 1/2. It is very cute when we walk the talks every morning or afternoon the cats tend to follow us to the park with them and they look at the dogs as their mothers.
I will explain that more in detail on another day. The story of our trip to Alberta and my parents farm and picking up the cats.
So today I have so much to do and so little time, by the way I do not have a real job so when I complain about time and stuff it just means I have lots to do around the house.
But I don't want to get into that right now either, so why don't I tell you a bit about Matt and I and how we met and our whirlwind of the last year and 1/2.
So here we go , Matt and I met on a Sunday afternoon at 4pm a year ago March and we originally were just suppose to meet for a hook up(sex), well to be honest the sex that day was horrible and just didn't work at all but let me tell you Matt definitely worked for me and I fell in love instantly, which is not where I planned to go at all. So we thought we would hook up again and try the sex thing again and the second time was almost as bad as the first, so we tried a third hook up and walla everything worked and he asked me that very day to date him. That was March 17th yes St. Patricks Day of 2009.
I ended up moving in with him on May 7th of that same year, I know quick, hay? As I said a whirlwind relationship. Well I will give you more on that later.
Matt got up and is very sick today with a cold and therefor a little out of it. I got up and took the dogs and cats for their morning walk to the park as I do every morning once I am awake.
I guess I should tell you about our little family, we have 2 dogs both female and they are Rogue(6 years) and Storm (5 Years) and they are mother and daughter. We also have 2 cats Sparky and Nadia who are brother and sister and both a year and a 1/2. It is very cute when we walk the talks every morning or afternoon the cats tend to follow us to the park with them and they look at the dogs as their mothers.
I will explain that more in detail on another day. The story of our trip to Alberta and my parents farm and picking up the cats.
So today I have so much to do and so little time, by the way I do not have a real job so when I complain about time and stuff it just means I have lots to do around the house.
But I don't want to get into that right now either, so why don't I tell you a bit about Matt and I and how we met and our whirlwind of the last year and 1/2.
So here we go , Matt and I met on a Sunday afternoon at 4pm a year ago March and we originally were just suppose to meet for a hook up(sex), well to be honest the sex that day was horrible and just didn't work at all but let me tell you Matt definitely worked for me and I fell in love instantly, which is not where I planned to go at all. So we thought we would hook up again and try the sex thing again and the second time was almost as bad as the first, so we tried a third hook up and walla everything worked and he asked me that very day to date him. That was March 17th yes St. Patricks Day of 2009.
I ended up moving in with him on May 7th of that same year, I know quick, hay? As I said a whirlwind relationship. Well I will give you more on that later.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Wow! I cannot believe my partner, Michael really started this blog. We have talked about doing something like this for at least a year. I think the inspiration came from the movie 'Julia and Juliet' that got him going.
Im Matt or Matthew the tall dark handsome one in this comedy of our lives. My mother calls me "Matthew" if that helps you choose a name :) Im going to bed. Im feeling a bit sick possibly a cold coming. So tomorrow we will begin a true day of blogging.
Im Matt or Matthew the tall dark handsome one in this comedy of our lives. My mother calls me "Matthew" if that helps you choose a name :) Im going to bed. Im feeling a bit sick possibly a cold coming. So tomorrow we will begin a true day of blogging.
My Gay Neighbor
Well Day 1 and the 3rd day after christmas and we Just got in from the neighbors. I guess I should explain who we are. I am Michael and my partner is Matt and he is here on the couch beside me at the moment. We are constantly called the gay neighbors by all of our neighbors so I decided to start writing a little about it and where
we live and our lives. I am going to try and do this on a daily basis and hopefully get some followers in the near future.
we live and our lives. I am going to try and do this on a daily basis and hopefully get some followers in the near future.
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