Well I guess I am in May now and home from Alberta to troubling times in our relationship and stress from my being gone and worrying about mom and 3 people who came into our lives while I was away. I won't get into how as of yet, but I will say the one I dislike the most is a man named Michel. I am sure I am not the only person on earth who has a strong dislike for this person and who I see him as. To me he is a self centered nothing of a man who I prefer to call a home wrecker. May came and went and we started again to rebuild our relationship. I love Matthew dearly and I know that he loves me as well and that love we have has grown stronger every day and through every test thrown at us.May was also the end of a 15 year friendship with a man and his partner who I thought would always be in my life and I use to think I could trust. Things were said on both sides that we both would later regret and rekindle a friendship although not the same in September. The biggest reason for our falling out was that he was trying to sleep with my partner, I know hard to believe. The gay lifestyle is very different and as I have figured out over the years monogamy is a hard task by men in general, gay, straight or otherwise. I am a unique gay man and know of a few others who believe in monogamy in a relationship. I have found out over the years that unfortunately there is not a large percentage like me.
In June I turned 40 years old and had a great birthday party, not a big one, but those who I wanted there and those who are my now true friends attended, and a couple of people who are no longer in my life at all except when we accidentally run into each other while out.
Bo and Hope showed up and Bo wore the most amazing outfit, probably the best gift ever, he had on Daisy Duke Shorts , a great cowboy shirt and a pair of Cowboy boots. This brought smiles to everyones faces and was a conversation piece that lasted for months. Others who were there were My Best friend Tom and his now ex Boris, Our other neighbors Isabella and John, My now ex other best friend Jurgen and his roommate at the time Jeff and Matthew's friends Gabe and Julian.
This is also the night Isabella came out with the statement My gay neighbor and it has just kind of stuck since then. So now this is what we are known as to them and to Bo and Hope.
At the end of June I flew to Toronto for 10 days and helped out a friend at their restaurant over PRIDE. Had a great time and was gone again from Matt, my girls and the cats. I got to reunite with friends and also see my ex Wayne which is always a pleasure. Although we never made it as a couple we have remained in touch and become very good friends.
Coming home in July I was not sure after several phone conversations with Matthew what I was coming home to and if I would still have a relationship. Believe you me over the last 1 and 1/2 years we have had our ups and downs and our fair share of compromises in our relationship. Matthew and I have different views on many things but some how always seem to meet in the middle. Understanding both of us and our upbringings and the way we have lived our past relationships has helped a great deal for us to move forward. I have told Matt from day 1 that he is my lobster, for all of you who don't know a lobster mates for life and has only that one partner. Matthew is mine.
June and July were filled with drinks in our yard and sitting out front in or bathing suits and in our Kiddie Pool which we set up every year and beat the heat in. Bo and Hope were over lots in the summer and Hope always showed up in her bikini. We were back and forth between each others yards all summer long. Always good times and wow did I ever have a great tan.
John looked over the fence one day and made a comment asking me if the 3 of us wore anything else, the answer was basically no. This is our summer attire when home and warm enough. John did eventually come over one day and actually sit in our kiddie pool and joined us for a drink as well. We also went to their 10th anniversary in July, I dressed in drag and Matt wore a lovely Blue Leisure Suit as the theme was tacky wedding.
Well time to bring Bo and Hopes tenant into my year in Review. We met Froy in May I guess, and developed an immediate friendship with him, He is a great young man and we are thankful to have him in our lives. Will explain more about him soon.
August brought Matt and I closer together and also brought much sadness into my life with friends and best friends parents passing away, was the start to a horrible time for death was upon us. Mom still going through Chemo and now having lost all of her hair was strong and went to say goodbye to many of her friends that I grew up knowing. This string of deaths was to last through to November.
August brought me a new job and what I thought at the time to be a fabulous employer, BOY was I wrong about that. Turns out he was another asshole who just ended up using me to turn around his business and use my knowledge and then discard me like yesterdays news. I ended up being let go in September after 6 short weeks of work and what I thought was my dream job. We also celebrated PRIDE in Vancouver, was a great time. had a small gathering and Bar B Q at the house.
We ended August celebrating Matthew's 44th birthday. It was nice and quiet and the 2 of us had a great time. I bought him a Food processor(something he really wanted and uses frequently). He loves his kitchen toys and also any power tools he can get his hands on. He is easily distracted by shiny objects. I often bug him and say he suffers from ADOS, attention defisite ooh Shiny.
Poor Bo had to miss it all as he was out of the province most of the summer working.
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