Well when I came out publicly I was in my mid twenties and had already been in a few relationships which I had to carry on in Secret. I came out in 1997 and was almost 27 years old. I was in a relationship at that time with Henry and we had an apartment in Edmonton.
I will never forget the day I told my family, they actually dealt with it extremely well and that surprised me most of all. If you know anything, Alberta is a very conservative province! When I came out we (Henry and I) went out to my parents for dinner. My mother was amazing and so great with it, she just said that I was still her son and that she loved me no matter what. My eldest sister Sher was totally weirded out I think and just looked at me and said she was not ready to hear it, but I still had to say it. My father was just, well really no reaction, I just don't talk about it with him and it just never comes up. He has tended to have a great relationship with most of my partners and that is all I can ask for. My brothers were good but seem to become a bit distant. Their wives were just fabulous with me and I think it brought I closer together.
Now my sister Char, seemed to be good at first but later in life I found out she was the worst and most prejudicial about the whole gay thing. She actually left me a message in 2002 on my phone and said and I quote, I hope you get aids and die, you stupid little fag. Those words hurt a lot , coming from family.
I have no regrets coming out though, nor do I have any regrets on my lifestyle and the way it has turned out.
So please if you are gay, just be who you are! It is harder to live a false life and try to be straight, then to be just who you are.
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